Blame

He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there.
He who blames no one has arrived. (Chinese proverb)

Have to say, I am stuck at number 2. It is a Northerner thing to do. In the South, it is dumping bucket.

In the North, you apologize and everyone apologizes with you and you move on. It is like a combination of number 2 and 3. This is why they have no fault car insurance. The crashee apologizes to the crasher and everyone takes care of the situation.

Unfortunately in the South, if the Crashee apologizes, the crasher records the confession with their camera phone and demand their insurance card.

This also applies at work as well.

I don't want to move into number 1. I am going to move to number 3.

I will not blame anyone and focus on the solution. However, sometimes you need to understand the problem. By identifying the problem, you inherently leave room for blame. I need to learn how to identify the root cause of the problem without enabling others to invoke #2 and #1. I need to be able to toss this proverb onto the table, to set the standard and shame anyone from jumping for thing number 1 and thing number 2.